The Invisible Black Woman

We’ve all been there, haven’t we? We’re pouring your energy into something, stretching ourselves thin, and yet, the results feel elusive. It’s that space between the effort and the outcome that can feel unbearable, like planting seeds and staring at the soil, wondering if they’ll ever sprout. Or the watched pot that never boils, as most mothers would say. It’s exhausting, it’s lonely, and honestly, it can make you question why you’re even bothering. 

But can I tell you something I know you already know? Effort compounds. Every ounce of work you’ve put in, every sleepless night, every coffee-fueled brainstorming session, every uncomfortable moment of growth, it’s all adding up. Even if it feels like nothing is happening, trust me, the seeds are growing. 

There’s a line I once heard that sticks with me: “Nothing worth having comes easy.” The problem is, we often mistake delayed outcomes for no outcomes. But the truth is, success doesn’t come with an Amazon Prime guarantee. Next-day delivery isn’t a thing when it comes to our dreams. 

And I get it; the waiting can feel unbearable. Trust me: I. Get. It. Maybe you’re working toward a degree that seems like it’s taking forever to finish. Maybe you’re grinding to build a business, to hit your fitness goals, or to find the career path that aligns with your purpose. Whatever it is, it feels endless. And when you’re knee-deep in the work, it’s hard to keep the faith that the reward will come. 

But as Anthony in “F is for Family” would say: you know what? You know what? You—you know what? Hard work always pays off. Sometimes it shows up in ways you don’t expect. Maybe it’s not the promotion you were aiming for, but a different door opens that’s even better. Maybe it’s not the relationship you thought you wanted, but a deeper self-awareness that changes everything. 

The effort is never wasted. It’s growing you, shaping you, and preparing you for what’s next. And let’s not forget, the journey itself is valuable. The skills you’re building, the discipline you’re practicing, the person you’re becoming: those are all part of the payoff, too. 

And on the days when it feels like you’re spinning your wheels, let me offer this perspective: rest is part of the work, too. Yes, showing up matters. Yes, consistency matters. But so does giving yourself the grace to pause, breathe, and recharge. Rest doesn’t mean you’re slacking; it means you’re replenishing the energy you need to keep moving forward. 

Let this be your reminder to keep going. Even when it feels impossible. Even when you’re doubting yourself. Even when the voice in your head tells you to quit. Tell that voice to take several seats. You’re the one in control here, and you’ve got this. 

So, celebrate the small wins, even if they’re just showing up today. Honor the progress you’ve made, even if it’s just surviving the day. And most importantly, keep trusting that all of your hard work WILL pay off. 

Until next time, I wish you nothing but sunshine, rainbows, and unicorns, which are no less fictitious than the successful you are.