The Invisible Black Woman

I don’t know what today threw at you, or what’s waiting for you tomorrow, but let me tell you this: You absolutely, positively got this.

Maybe you’re staring at a to-do list that looks like it was written by someone who thought you had 48 hours in a day. Maybe you just got off a call that drained the last bit of energy you had left. Or maybe you’re just trying to navigate a world that insists on throwing curveballs like it’s an Olympic sport. I don’t know the specifics of your situation, but what I do know is this: You have what it takes to get through this, even when it feels like the odds are stacked against you. 

And no, I’m not here to sell you some toxic positivity. You’re allowed to feel tired, overwhelmed, or even defeated. But let’s get one thing straight: Feeling like you can’t do it doesn’t mean you can’t do it. It just means you’re human, navigating challenges that, on some level, are part of the design. That doesn’t mean the struggle is fair or justified—it just means that you have the capacity to push through it. 

Think back to all the times you thought you wouldn’t make it. I’ll wait, promise.

Remember that first job where you had to smile through nonsense while secretly plotting your escape? Remember how you managed to build something out of the rubble when someone, somewhere, underestimated you? And remember how you once thought you couldn’t survive without that person, that opportunity, or that plan, but here you are, proving yourself wrong every single day?

That’s the energy I want you to channel. Not because life isn’t hard—it is—but because you’ve already proven that you can handle hard things.

Let’s talk about the little battles, the ones we don’t give ourselves enough credit for. That moment when you decided to prioritize your peace, even if it meant saying no to someone who didn’t understand. The time you dragged yourself out of bed on a day when staying under the covers felt like the only viable option. The way you keep showing up, even when it feels like no one sees you. 

Here’s the truth we don’t hear enough: You’re the hero of your own story. And while the world may not always clap for you, it’s not because you don’t deserve applause. It’s because sometimes the best stories take time to be understood. 

If you’re anything like me, you’ve probably internalized the idea that you have to do it all, perfectly, and without breaking a sweat. That the mere act of being here isn’t enough unless you’re excelling, overachieving, and making it all look effortless. But let me tell you something: Doing your best doesn’t mean doing it all.

Sometimes, your best is saying, “Not today.” Sometimes, your best is admitting you’re tired and leaning into rest instead of resistance. And sometimes, your best is just existing—just being here, in the moment, with all your imperfections and contradictions. That’s still enough. You’re still enough.

I want you to take a moment and really think about what it means to “have this.” It doesn’t mean you’ll always have the answers or never make mistakes. It doesn’t mean you’ll avoid every pitfall or dodge every failure. It means that when life tries to knock you down, you find a way to rise, even if the rising looks different each time. 

It means trusting yourself, even when doubt whispers otherwise. It means remembering that you’re not defined by the moments you stumble but by the moments you choose to stand back up. 

It’s easy to get caught up in the noise—the endless comparison, the unspoken pressure to prove yourself, the fear that maybe you’re not doing enough. Remember: You are not in competition with anyone else’s journey.

You’re running your own race, on your own timeline, with your own unique set of challenges and strengths. And no one can take that away from you. 

So tonight, I want you to think about what it would look like to believe in yourself just a little bit more. To trust that you’re not only capable of handling what’s ahead but that you’re worthy of every good thing waiting for you on the other side. 

Let’s not sugarcoat it: Some days will test you. You’ll question why you even bother. You’ll wonder if it’s all worth it. And in those moments, I want you to remember this: Every step you take is an act of courage.

It’s not about winning every battle. It’s about showing up, even when the odds don’t look favorable. It’s about finding the strength to keep going, even when the road feels impossibly long. 

Think about all the things you’ve already overcome. The heartbreaks that felt like they’d break you. The challenges that seemed insurmountable. The moments when you thought, “This is it, I can’t do this,” but then you did.

That’s what I mean when I say, “You got this.” It’s not just a feel-good mantra; it’s a reminder of everything you’ve already proven to yourself. 

The good news is you don’t have to do it all at once. You don’t have to have it all figured out. Progress isn’t about perfection; it’s about persistence. It’s about taking one step, then another, even if those steps feel small or uncertain. 

You absolutely, positively got this. Not because life isn’t hard, but because you are harder to break than you think.

And when you find yourself doubting, when the voice in your head starts telling you all the reasons why you can’t, I want you to counter that voice with all the reasons why you can. 

You’re here. You’re trying. You’re pushing through. And that? That’s enough. 

So tonight, I hope you give yourself permission to rest, to reflect, and to recognize your own strength. I hope you find a moment of peace in the chaos and remind yourself that you’re not just surviving. You’re growing, evolving, and becoming the person you were always meant to be. 

And if no one else has told you lately, let me be the first: You are enough. Just as you are, right here, in this moment. 

Until next time, I wish you nothing but sunshine, rainbows, and unicorns, which are no less fictitious than the unshakable you are.